Quitter

They say a sign of maturity is when you understand your limitations and follow them.

I have had a humbling Spring to say the least.

I am already all too aware that my body is still in post-treatment flux and is continually evolving to a better state of health.  This evolution, however, is taking its time.  It feels that when I look back to my early 20s, it was decades ago, that I’m looking across a giant bridge at myself on the other side.  I feel aged by circumstance.  Fences run around my once-boundless energy.  I turn a corner to pick up some speed and deter it, but there it is, yet another wall.   

Post-treatment fatigue and joint pain has caused much alarm and frustration for me in the past few months.  When I brought these issues up to my oncologist during one of my follow up appointments last month, he said it might be depression.  Determined to prove him wrong, I began systematically removing items out of my diet that could be the source of the fatigue and pain.

I have quit eating wheat and dairy.  I have quit drinking coffee.  Ok, ok, I haven’t perfected these pristine dietary standards, but for the most part, I’ve been a good girl.  You might think I dove into the sea of the silly.  In reality, desperate times call for desperate desperateness. 

I’m surprised to say that a diet with lean meat and lots of vegetables seems to be the best for me thus far.  Green juice has made its way back to my normal routine.  Part of the annoyance factor is the awareness about the dark sides of the food industry.  It is part government agriculture subsidies, part chemical manufacturing, part marketing and advertising. 

This awareness ties back to the mystery surrounding my initial diagnosis.  It is like everything is bad for you.  Anything can cause cancer.  Better yet, anything can prevent cancer.  To come up with an informed decision is impossible.  Everything contradicts everything else.

Worse still, this cynicism is leaking into other parts of my life. 

Don’t get me wrong, there is more Pollyanna than not within me.  It’s just that my tolerance for bullshit is getting smaller by the day.  Then again, I can be extraordinarily patient with other people, but not with myself.  This, of course, has negative repercussions.

After nearly a year of dealing with school woes: financial aid, student status, withdrawing from classes, registration, getting this and that approved, waiting for replies from the Graduate School and the College of Information about my future graduate career, I’ve come to a significant conclusion:

I’m exhausted.

I’m also exactly where I wanted to be with or without school: I have a job with benefits that can cover my formerly cancer-ridden ass (or should I say lung?) and any potential shenanigans that might ensue.  I have a 401(k) and paid vacation.  I like my coworkers and workplace.

All in all, I’ve become the responsible grown-up despite my cancer-ness.

So, why do I need to pile any additional stress? 

I left work a tiny bit earlier Monday thinking I’d get home early and help my family prepare dinner.  I ended up arriving exactly when I would get there if I hadn’t left early because of an accident on the main highway to my home.

No lies I hate traffic.  I even took off my work shoes while stopped on I-35 and fished some flip-flops out of the backseat.  I had that much time and inclination to get home and be comfortable.

I also had enough time to come to a realization.  If I sit in congested traffic to get home, it is more infuriating than taking the side streets, which may be longer but keep me moving. 

Thus, why the hell am I putting myself in congested traffic when all I need is to take the long way on the side streets?

Upon arriving home grumpy and tired, I knew my decision to stop graduate school was made.

At this point, I don’t know if it will be a permanent or temporary hiatus.  I don’t know if I will stay in librarianship, even though it is dear to my heart.  I don’t know if I’ll return to UNT.

Decisions, decisions…

…for another day.